First, pat yourself on the back ~ You’re Doing The Work ~

Doing the work already separates you from the rest of the wanna’s and maybe’s. You’re a DOER. Connectors DO. So proud of you…. Keep going.


Here’s our exercise today:

  1. Reserve 30 minutes in your calendar today.
  2. In your Guidelog for Day 4, write down the various online platforms you’re active on. Mine happen to be LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram. YouTube is in there for good measure and I ‘use’ it though it’s a very specific go-to for me, rather than daily comm’s and updates.
  3. [Action shot from the HQ this morning, prepping the Challenge for you!]

    For each of your platforms, thoughtfully seek, find and personally invite 2 new people. For Linkedin, this means a personal invite – not a quick click to “connect” – that won’t count. Twitter – same thing. Use keywords for whatever floats your boat to find interesting people doing meaningful works to engage with. Instagram – same drill. I’m newer there so that one will take me the longest, no doubt – I’ll budget my time accordingly.
  4. It’s a GREAT exercise to really see where you’re choosing to show up. It’s also a perfect opportunity to stop any accounts you’re not active on. While the term ‘social media’ has always chapped my hide, it’s called ‘social’ for a reason: social requires interaction. No lurking allowed for Connectors. You’re either in and active, or you’re not in (permission slip to get out: granted).
  5. Record the names of the people you choose to follow, invite and engage with in your Guidelog.
  6. Record any and all returned responses in your Guidelog, whenever they happen. Remember: we’re connecting on purpose and not nearly everyone who uses online platforms is as intentional as we’re being in this Challenge.
  7. Engage in online conversation with the new connections, as you wish. I like to acknowledge the LinkedIn invites I get with a short personal message, always. Kate Paine, a kickass LinkedIn Coach, shares best practices here. The whole idea of the platform to me is to meaningful connect, so I want to let them know I both notice and appreciate their kind request. The follow-up online and live conversations I’ve had by doing this blow my mind and are fantastic!

If you want to invite more than 2 per platform, go for it!

Part of the lesson today is to be efficient though. So don’t spend gobs of time online, inviting relentlessly. Block 30 minutes and  limit yourself to that. Set a timer to hold yourself accountable.


Oh – and if we’re not yet connected on LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram, I’d love to get an invite from you! Got a YouTube Channel also? Bonus! Send me a link of that too. Keen to see what you’re up to.


So you’re prepared: when we connect thoughtfully, we do see more active replies and possible new relationships. Be aware that what you put out may come back – count on at least a percentage coming back to roost in the form of people who want to mutually connect with you (of course they would!). You’ll need to figure out where and how much time you’re willing to give new connections.

Have fun, see you tomorrow for Day 5 of the #10DayConnectingChallenge.



What’s Next:

Go to the blog tomorrow (& everyday) for Day 5 #10DayConnectingChallenge.

Be sure you’re reserving time in your calendar each day to complete your Challenge Exercise & record it.

What gets scheduled, happens.

Thanks for skilling up with me.

It’s a joy & honor to be your teacher for better human connection skills, tools, strategies and tactics.

See you tomorrow for Day 5. Be well, keep connecting.


p.s. Did you invite anyone else to do this with you? What are you learning together?

Just Joining us?

Here’s the link for full directions for the #10DayConnectingChallenge. Follow the blog posts – they’re all attached for ease & flow.


BONUS: Everyone who accepts the Challenge and completes it* will get a special gift from me as a congrats: complimentary 30-minute live coaching call to discuss anything human connection you want.

*Download the Guidelog pdf here fill in as we go along. Scan & send me an image of the completely filled out 10DCC Guidelog to confirm when you’re done. Once you get that to me, we’ll line up the call.


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