Upcoming Events

Join me ~

Illinois Valley Rotary Club /Speaker of the day / 10.2 Wild River Pub, Cave Junction OR

SOREDI Summit / Speaking on Connectivity: The Human Side of Technology 10.5 White City OR

Workshop Connecting Tools: Connectivity + LinkedIn / 10.15 Medford OR

Book Party!! Everyone welcome Connectivity Canon / 2Hawk Winery / 10.15 Medford OR

Workshop 7 Elements of Connectivity / 10.18 Central Point OR ; Ribbon Cutting shortly before the event!

Rogue Gateway Rotary Club / Speaker of the day / 11.1 Grants Pass OR

Workshop Connecting Tools: Connectivity + LinkedIn / 11.5 Medford OR

LinkedInLocalEastValley / Guest Speaker / 11.14 Chandler AZ

S-E-V-E-N Networking meeting, visiting / 11.15 Chandler AZ

SOU School of Business Speaker Series / Speaker / 11.20 Ashland OR

Guest, BONUS Call episode with Maribel Jiminez, Your Dream Launch / invite only / 12.5

NE Growers & Brewers Conference / Keynote / 1.12-14.19  Lincoln NE

Workshop Connectivity: In-Person / Talent Public Library / 1.18.19 Talent OR

GirlsRock! / Instructor / 3.2.19 Grants Pass OR

Oregon Chocolate Festival / Presenter / 3.8 – 10 Ashland OR

The Difference Between Connecting And Networking

When I decided to go full throttle into Connectivity, I wanted to be superdupercrystalclear with my message: what is the ONE THING I’m sharing with the world that can serve others and make a difference?

To that end, I have defined what Connectivity is and what it isn’t (it’s all covered in the book too, check it out here).

One of my primary differentiators is that Connectivity Isn’t Networking. Like my colleague and friend, Patrick Galvin states, “Being a great connector is not the same as having a wide network.”


Connecting isn’t numbers or “should’s” or jockeying for position.

It’s real, in-person, one at a time.

If you want more Connectivity, sign up to get our periodic enewsletter (safe, secure) – as well, Patrick’s newsletter is a good one to get.

Speaking & Connecting

Last week, it was a pleasure to spend time with new cohorts at a meeting.

During the meeting, it was highlighted by the host that I offer professional speaking engagements…and that I might be able to offer support to any one else in the cohort with speaking questions.

Indeed, one of them emailed me with this question:

“As I mentioned [at the meeting] I’m speaking for the first time next Thursday and I’m freaking out… I would love to hear some tips; sounds like you have some good ones…”

Here’s my response:

“I’d love to help – and my next several days are packed! I’m traveling to speak this coming week so that’s my focus. Knowing your talk is this week, here are a few suggestions to noodle:

1. Don’t use notes. They provide a crutch, are a distraction and you really don’t need them.

2. Smile as you speak. It can take practice to master this AND it has a huge impact, even a pleasant countenance when talking about tricky topics helps put the audience at ease and helps you relax.

3. Slow down. I learned to slow down when I spoke in Mexico City years ago and had to because an interpreter was keeping up with me. It was a powerful real-time lesson and has helped me keep getting better; to imagine the interpreter.

4. Keep your points tight. I cover no more than 3, period. People can remember three, you can remember three and if people want more, then that’s where the engagement goes deeper.

If you want more, following your talk this coming week, I’d be glad to discuss helping you develop and hone your speaking skills. It’s exactly what I help some of my clients do: best connect with their audiences in their speaking endeavors.”

Use these for yourself, as you wish. And if I can answer specific question on speaking as it relates to connecting with a speaking audience, get in touch. Happy to field them. Thanks.

Dialogue For Connectors


  • Great Morning and Thanks for the Connection Request. May I ask why you are wanting to connect with me aside from my amazing energy? As I believe in mutually beneficial connections, please let me know how I can help you in any way. Also, to begin a great relationship, if you could please endorse me for 5-10 different things on my profile. I’d appreciate that and will return the favor. Lastly, as I just posted my 2nd LinkedIn Video, if you can give me some feedback, share, or like, I’d appreciate that as well. Growing Forward, J ~

  • Ginger Johnson sent the following message at 10:44 AM

    Hi J – Well, you invited me first – so… if this is a pat cut & paste reply, you may want to rethink it for those you connect with first.  Endorse: happy to do so when I have first hand experience, so once if/when we engage, we can revisit that request, of course. Video: props! It’s an excellent tool. Did you ask for feedback in the stream of posting it? That’s a great way to spread and learn too. Be well. g

  • J sent the following message at 10:46 AM

    Not copy paste, sometimes I fat finger things when I’m trying to do things on my mobile! lol, also, still trying to figure things our here learning for everyone who’s doing such an amazing job here online w/ LinkedIn. As you’ve been here for a bit, any tips you think helpful?

  • Ginger Johnson sent the following messages at 10:46 AM

    J – tactics (v tips)? Sure.

  • 1. Draft a regular invite or response and then BE SURE to personalize it for each one you send.

  • 2. Make each invite personalized – take the time to include a reason why you want to connect with THEM, not vice versa. I learned this from Brian Schulman – it’s gold.

  • 3. Don’t ask for endorsements unless you’ve actually collaborated – how could i possible do so if I don’t even know you!! And To tell me you’ll do the same is, well, strange…..

  • 4. Connect. Invest the time it takes to get to know someone first then dig into the other opportunities. Relationships are a long game, not a quick fix. Connectors are methodical, thoughtful, careful, engaged. Not numbers focused.

  • If this helps, great! My book has more insight into connectivity as well. If this is your kind of conversation, then we can keep it going. if it’s not a fit, then we can take a different tack. Thanks. g

  • J sent the following message at 10:50 AM

    Yeah, that I get. There are a lot of non-invite requests I’ve been receiving that are blank. I’ve also noticed Brian’s name popping up quite a bit. I’ll have to tune into him closer. And I understand about the endorsement thing. Maybe took a que from the wrong person early on that suggested that approach. It didn’t feel very authentic to me then, but he’d been around here a lot longer and I put my own judgement aside…which wasn’t correct.

  • Ginger Johnson sent the following message at 10:51 AM

    Ha! Tenure has NOTHING to do with form….listen to your gut telling you the authenticity truth. Pivot now. You can do it, tell me how I can help. g

  • J sent the following message at 10:51 AM

    Also, I believe you are correct. Relationship building is my intent, not anything other than that. I simply want to surround myself with great people to learn from, grow with, and stop being on the sidelines of my life anymore.

  • Ginger Johnson sent the following message at 10:52 AM

    Be your own coach, seek others and you’re fully in the game! Glad to be connected, Jay. Stay in touch, be well. Onward. g


Sharing = Connectivity

When you share your knowledge with other people, you connect.

Being a generous sharer helps other people learn, helps you support and assist other people, and in the end serves everyone.


I’m reminded of how important sharing is often – and it came front and center again last week. In a conversation with Gregg Rapp, he referenced a pivotal book, Naked Consulting. When he brought it up, I recall he had shared the recommendation with me in a previous conversation. The whole premise is that you engage FULLY with the people who are inquiring about how you can help them. By engage fully I mean – you start sharing, with the faucet wide open, to help them. Sharing your knowledge, insight, expertise – all of it.

Here’s why.

Because, like Gregg said, you’ve still got loads and loads and years and years of insight and expertise to offer them well after you’ve shared initially. He’s right. I really appreciated the reminder because I can get bogged down in the, “well, I should get paid for that” first. Getting paid for your work is key – absolutely. And when you share smartly, you will.

With the right people – people who genuinely want and need your help – this is key. They’ll listen, ask more questions and then – often – ask how they can work with you.

Even if that question isn’t forthcoming, by having a very open share-focused conversation with a service mindset, you’ll feel great, will have helped someone out and spread goodwill. “What goes around comes around” is apropos here.

People who experience other people sharing become agents of sharing too. It’s highly contagious and can be extraordinarily positive, inspiring and productive.

Share today. Freely, wholeheartedly and with a service mindset. That’s what connectors do. That’s what connectivity is – sharing with service in mind.


The Connectivity Canon has more on how-to Connect. Get your copies here.