Jackie Cuneo

Thanks to Jackie Cuneo for her connectivity question today.

She asks:

“I’m passionate about my own profession (mortgage) and would like to connect with more women and minorities in the financial services realm. What do you do before you speak in front of a large group to get yourself in the right frame of mind?”

Great question, Jackie – probably a pretty common one!

Check out my reply here.

For those of you who also get opportunity to speak, what do you do to prepare? Please add your suggestions below.

How Do You Meet And Connect With People? 5DCC starts soon!

Last January, I launched the first-ever 5 Day Connecting Challenge. (here’s the intro video)
An intrepid group of people decided to join me and we sallied forth into becoming better Connectors.

What’s a Connector?

Someone who connects with people on purpose with a service mindset.

They’re out to change the world by creating and developing relationships that change their lives.
They’re game changers and doers, in all sorts of ways.

Being a connector has changed my life and I want to share what I’ve learned with you.

And, for the record, I didn’t start out this way.

People ask me, “How do you do it – How do you know so many people? How do you meet people?”

It’s a muscle like any other; it takes focused time, effort and attention.
And it’s NOT networking. (That’s the tip of the iceberg.)
We’re talking about going deep – learning how to be a better person by being a great connector.

Connectors make our world go, they move and change and do.

Do you want to be a Connector?
Then join us.
I can show you how.

Starting Monday October 29th, for 5 days in a row, we’ll rally ‘round Connecting together.
For 5 days, I’ll send you an email with specific instructions on how to dig into the Challenge, with guidance from me, on how to build your connecting muscles and skills.

You’ll learn the 7 Elements of Connectivity – the clear framework that outlines specific steps.
You’ll start to see how easy and comfortable it can be.
And, like many others who start to see what being a Connector can mean for your life, your confidence grows with every interaction.

The investment is your time, energy, focus and intent to Do This.
It’s a free Challenge.
It’s only for you IF you’re willing to invest the time, energy and focus required.
I want to give it to you. No strings.
DO NOT sign on if you’re only going to go halfway.

If you want to join me, reply directly to this email with “I’m In!”
That’s it.
You’ll be among a special group of people who want to learn how to be a Connector.
If you’re already a Connector, Great! The Challenge will further improve your skills.

For those who find the 5 Day Connecting Challenge meaningful, there’ll be available options on the last day to help you keep moving forward toward Connectivity Mastery.

If you want to learn how to become a Connector, as well as how to become a Better Connector, reply now.

And yes, if you think of friends, cohorts and colleagues who would also benefit from this Challenge, please feel very free to encourage them to sign up as well. Share this email with them – here’s a link directly to the blog post with this info too.

Thanks for being connected with me. I appreciate your time, attention and engagement. See you soon.

It’s a great day to connect,
g

p.s. I’ve got loads of connectivity videos on my YouTube channel too
p.s.s. Are we connected on LinkedIn yet?

Connectivity Isn’t Complex – It’s Simple

Guess what??

Connectivity isn’t complex. It’s straight forward and simple.

Marti Barletta, long time colleague and mentor – and now friend – sums it up:

“Don’t make it complicated, Ginger. There’s too many people making things complicated.”

She’s right.

When we complicate a process or system or thinking, we ball up the works. We end up thwarting our own connecting endeavors. Here’s why.

If we’re a true connector, we posses and exercise a service mindset. Being in service to another person, cause, entity provides the way forward with excitement, enthusiasm and vigor. It’s a path we want to take, rather than one we feel we “should” or “have to.”

Connectors like to keep things simple. Connecting one person to another. Making a recommendation, introduction and suggestion. All in a service mindset. To really serve that person.

When you serve someone else, you end up serving yourself.

Do you do it with just anyone?

No, that’s where we can make things complicated.

We step into connecting and into being a Connector with full awareness (though not always understanding – that’s called faith) that we’ll be able to move things forward.

Connecting is simple. The framework is in the book:

  • Why
  • Mindset
  • First Move
  • Y In The Road
  • Pursue Your Path
  • Follow Up
  • Follow Through

Simple.

Keep it simple, make it really happen. When you do, you’ll make the world a better place for your efforts.

Connecting Question From Ig

In life as we know it – or at least how I’m experiencing it – I get questions from people. Specifically, connecting questions. How to do this or that, what to do, how can I and so forth…

Today’s question comes from a connecting via LinkedIn, Igboanugo. He asks:

“Okay, I would love to learn how to meet people and not be emotionally attached when they share their problems with new and need my advice.”

I replied to focus on listening and being supportive; not being a savior. Watch the video here for more.

If we’re connected on LinkedIn already, great! If not, send me an invite. The world is a better place when we truly connect on purpose with a service mindset.

What Connectivity Question do you have?

Write it in the comments below and I’ll respond to all of them.

5 Day Connecting Challenge

Last January, I launched the first-ever 5 Day Connecting Challenge.

An intrepid group of people decided to join me and we sallied forth into becoming better Connectors.

What’s a Connector?

Someone who connects with people on purpose with a service mindset.

They’re out to change the world by creating and developing relationships that change their lives.

They’re game changers and doers, in all sorts of ways.

Being a connector has changed my life and I want to share what I’ve learned with you.

And, for the record, I didn’t start out this way.

People ask me, “How do you do it – How do you know so many people? How do you meet people?”

It’s a muscle like any other; it takes focused time, effort and attention.

And it’s NOT networking. (That’s the tip of the iceberg.)

Connectors turn your world upside down, in incredible ways!

We’re talking about going deep – learning how to be a better person by being a great connector.

Connectors make our world go, they move and change and do.

Do you want to be a Connector?

Then join us.

I can show you how.

Starting Monday October 29th, for 5 days in a row, we’ll rally ‘round Connecting together.

For 5 days, I’ll send you an email with specific instructions on how to dig into the Challenge, with guidance from me, on how to build your connecting muscles and skills.

  • You’ll learn the 7 Elements of Connectivity – the clear framework that outlines specific steps.
  • You’ll start to see how easy and comfortable it can be.
  • And, like many others who start to see what being a Connector can mean for your life, your confidence grows with every interaction.

The investment is your time, energy, focus and intent to Do This.

It’s a free Challenge.

It’s only for you IF you’re willing to invest the time, energy and focus required.

I want to give it to you. No strings.

DO NOT sign on if you’re only going to go halfway.

If you want to join me, reply directly to this post in the comments below with “I’m In!”

That’s it.

You’ll be among a special group of people who want to learn how to be a Connector.

If you’re already a Connector, Great! The Challenge will further improve your skills.

For those who find the 5 Day Connecting Challenge meaningful, there’ll be available options on the last day to help you keep moving forward toward Connectivity Mastery.

If you want to learn how to become a Connector, as well as how to become a Better Connector, comment now.

And yes, if you think of friends, cohorts and colleagues who would also benefit from this Challenge, please feel very free to encourage them to sign up as well.

Thanks for being connected with me. I appreciate your time, attention and engagement. See you soon.

It’s a great day to connect,

g

p.s. I’ve got loads of videos on Connectivity on my YouTube channel

p.s.s. Are we connected on LinkedIn yet?

Be An Agent, Not A Gatekeeper

Often the first part of my morning involves a visit to LinkedIn.

In the last several months I’ve had my eyes opened to what the platform has to offer – how it’s experiencing a renaissance with new contributors, thinkers, movers, doers and people all over the globe making the LI community robust.

In my activities on LinkedIn, I’ve been so fortunate to garner regular requests to connect. And I’ll tell you know – when I first renewed my interest and engagement in the platform, I was particular to the point of being exclusive in accepting invites.

I had guidelines like, “well – they have to be this or that, they have to send a personal invite….”

What I realized as I grew my own #LinkedInFam and started objectively learning was that my thinking above was All Wrong.

The platform, like many on & off-line, exist to help us mix, mingle and meet. They each have their format and style to invite us IN, not keep us out. If we choose to engage, within the parameters of engagements, then we can connect. We can meet, converse, contribute, learn.

So I totally changed my strategy.

Now, while I still have a few guidelines, I’m waaaaaaay more welcoming. I want to be an agent, not a gatekeeper.

It’s been very liberating and fun and fruitful to open my own mind – to be objective and welcoming.

How do you use LinkedIn? Tell me in the comments below. As a Connector, learning what other people do, why & how they do it, is always appreciated.

Props today to a few key people who’ve helped me learn more about the community & engagement on LinkedIn:

  1. Kate Paine, Standing Out Online
  2. Brian Schulman, Voice Your Vibe
  3. Amy Jones, RecollectBetter
  4. Lynn Failing, Kimmel & Associates

How Do I Find Trustworthy Connections On LinkedIn?

Q: “Hey Ginger! Since being active on LinkedIn, I’m getting messages like what am I doing, exactly what, they ask for details. When I ask them what are they looking for or why so much details they say just curious or looking for ideas. And then they don’t talk further. I came to LinkedIn to increase my network for business. Not looking for customers but a partner! It’s not easy to find trustworthy among hundreds and thousands. Can you tell me how to use LinkedIn in a better way?”

Props to Mrudula for the question – and likely applicable to many of us.

A: Here’s my video reply.

What question do you have around Connectivity and using various platforms?

FYI – I’ve gotten deep into LinkedIn, including having hired terrific coaches with serious movement forward. If you’re seeking a LI coach, start with Kate.

Sinatra And White Shower Curtains

Make Up Reasons Day

…that’s what the 9th of October had printed in the date square on my Brian Andreas hanging calendar in my bathroom.

So we did.

[scene] Yesterday morning, before brushing teeth in the bathroom.

Me: “Larry, (My Fine Husband) can you tell me why blahdeblahblah?”

Larry: “Because Sinatra sings songs.”

.

*blink, blink*

.

me: “OHHHHHH!!!!! I got it – it’s make up reasons day.”

[silly laughter]

(…later that night….)

Larry: “What do you know about blahdeblahblah?”

Me: “It’s because we have a white shower curtain.”

Larry: “WHAAAT??”

Me: (grinning)

Larry: “Ohhhhh – (laughter again)…”

What the samhill does this post have to do with connectivity?

Laughing, making each other laugh, doing silly fun things is part of connecting with our humor. Humor, like education, changes the world for the better.

The prompt on the calendar reminded us that it’s fun and important in relationships to have fun, be silly, laugh together. That’s what the samhill is has to do with connectivity.

Nobodies and Invisible Invincibles

Shelli Johnson call’s them “nobodies” in this worthwhile article; I call them “invisible invincibles.”
Whatever the words you choose, SEE the people around you.
Interactions = connections.
Connections = lead to mind expanding experiences.
Experiences = what life’s about.

Trade Booth Connectivity

I recently shared ideas* on how to make a Trade Booth worthwhile for buyers of those spaces to build business.

Thanks to Midge, one reader & tribe member, for being compelled to give me some more great ideas.

A ‘worthwhile’ trade booth starts with the vendor…

Midge adds:

  1. To not read your favorite novel. Same thing, your head is down and well, people don’t want to disturb you.
  2. I also don’t eat at my booth. One because I usually have samples out and that’s just not cool, but people don’t want to interrupt you. AND you are not ready to start the conversation. I
  3. Personally always look at the people doing by to see who makes eye contact with me. That’s when I make a comment to start a conversation.
  4. I also try and stand on the outside of my booth or have it so them can come in to me; the table between us is like the crossed arms – you are closed to any interaction.
  5. Another thing I do is to tell my vendor neighbors that if we are talking, I will stop in middle of conversation if there is someone at my booth and I hope they do the same.

Thank you for this note and I truly hope that others take this to heart, I think it is very important.

*via my enewsletter – sign up if you want to get in the loop