If the end of the year can be trying for you…
If you’re not sure how to connect with the people in the rooms you’ll be in…
And if you want to be comfortable walking into those rooms, knowing you’ll be okay talking with whoever’s in the room…
Here’s a Connecting Tactic for the holidays to help you out.
When you decide to attend a holiday event this year, choose to meet one new person. One person you’ve never spoken with.
If you’ve literally met everyone in the room, choose to engage in conversation with a person who you know very little about.
Lead with an open-ended safe and pleasant query, like “tell me about one of your favorite childhood holiday memories” (or winter memories… holidays can be a negatively loaded time for some people).
Skip the “what do you do” or other stale and dead-end questions. Pass on the touchy topics. Stick to safe and it’ll be more pleasant for everyone. Safe isn’t a sell out, by the way. Safe keeps can keep it pleasant and fun, which is what most people want this time of year.
A classic encourager of further conversation can also be to say, “Tell me more about _[something in the conversation already mentioned]__.”
I’d also advise you to steer clear of weather and sports.
Choose instead movies, books, activities they’ve participated in, places they want to go visit, food and beverage they enjoy, the trip to get to where you all are, funny things you saw in the last week…. keep it positive and you’ll enjoy it more and be invited back.
The key is to simply do it. Simply, engage. Start a conversation. Conversations lead to connections lead to friends, business, opportunities and fun.
Remember, it’s a great day to connect.
Ho ho ho.
p.s. a great gift for the holidays is the Connectivity Canon – it’s a guide for learning how to better connect with people, year round.